Moving Towards Success.
So often in life we find ourselves stagnating or feeling as if we are running in the spot. It's not as if we aren't moving forward, but what we are doing doesn't seem to make any difference to our situation. It is so frustrating and demoralizing, yet in spite of how uncomfortable we are, we can't get out of that rut. How can we get ourselves from inertia into moving towards a much better outcome?
An inability to change an unsatisfactory situation can, more often than not, be linked to being fearful of doing things differently. Floundering in this fear of the unknown, you might say to yourself:
But what if I fail?
What will others think about me?
I might be worse off.
What if I actually succeed? I'll have to live up to higher expectations. I'll have more responsibility.
Who am I to think things can be different?
I'm not clever enough ... good enough ..., etc.
|There is likely to be a whole range of
talk which tells you there is no way you can move on. This may give you
permission to never make an effort to try something different. You can
by the 'What if this or that happens?' conversations you have in your
head. If you buy into this kind of negative thinking, there is no way
your situation is likely to improve.
Twain once said,
'If you think you can't, or you think you can; you're probably right'.
So what will start moving you towards what you want?
Determine your outcome
Ask yourself what the outcome is, that you truly desire. This outcome must be clearly and concisely stated in positive terms. Looking at it from your current perspective it should be realistic in order for you to believe that it is possible.
Thinking big is great but in the early stages of changing your thinking it could become overwhelming. So, if the achievement of your desire seems like a huge leap for you, perhaps it would be best to create a series of smaller steps that will eventually take you to that larger goal; Or, to develop your abilities in goal setting, you could practice on a series of short term goals.
There should be a real feeling of conviction about hitting the target. Then, as you start to create a track record of success, your growing confidence may allow you to become bolder with the steps you take.
At this stage, what else can you do to assist this manifestation process?
Consider the following:
- If you do something that clearly doesn't work remember that there is no failure only feedback. Find the lesson (or seed of success) and apply it.
- Ask yourself, 'Who do I need to be?' Consider the personal qualities and skills that may need to be developed or polished.
- Get a coach or a trusted 'accountability friend' who will keep you on track.
- Give thanks and celebrate all you have achieved so far and the gifts that have come your way in life. Gratitude attracts more good things into your life.
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.<<Abraham Lincoln>>